Philip’s special relationship with Diana

 

When the young Lady Diana Spencer first came to Balmoral Castle as a guest of Prince Charles in the early eighties, Prince Philip made a huge effort to welcome her.

He recognised she was insecure and far more naive than his son's previous selection of sophisticated blondes.

The Queen referred to Diana as "one of us" because her father, Lord Spencer, had been an equerry to King George V1.

For the first year of the Queen's reign he was also an equerry to her, providing the vital link between the old and new reign.

The Spencer family lived nearby at Park House on the Sandringham estate and were frequent guests at the "big house".

Rather than seeing her as a family friend, Philip recognised Diana as an awkward young girl, who was obviously overawed by the situation.

Prince Philip quickly realised she was much shyer than Charles’ previous women. Picture: News Corp Australia
Prince Philip quickly realised she was much shyer than Charles’ previous women. Picture: News Corp Australia


He frequently sat next to her at formal dinners in the candlelit dining room at Balmoral, and gave her a conspiratorial wink when the Queen's piper appeared swirling around the table playing his bagpipes.

Although Diana could not think of anything to say to Prince Philip, he always engaged her in conversation.

He was direct and straight to the point but never unkind. When Diana's relationship with his eldest son began to unravel, he started writing to her.

And when the Princess's behaviour became what was considered irrational, he begged the Queen to be more positive with her daughter-in-law. But she would listen to Diana's woes and do nothing.

Prince Philip explained to the Princess that he knew first-hand the difficulties of marrying into the Royal Family and tried to make her deal with her disintegrating marriage.

Their correspondence is documented in a series of letters which came to light during the inquest into Diana's death. He started communicating with her by letter in June 1992 then wrote on a near-daily basis.

He suggested things Diana and Charles could do together and listed common interests they shared - not Philip's style at all, as he admitted.

"I am quite ready to concede," he wrote in a light-hearted vein, "I have no talent as a marriage counsellor."

Diana addressed him throughout as "Dearest Pa" and one of her letters to him began: ''I was particularly touched by your most recent letter which proved to me, if I didn't already know it, that you really do care."

The "form of communication" - as Philip called it - continued through the summer of 1992, each taking great care with their tactful if over-polite replies.

"I still would like you to know how much I admire you for the marvellous way in which you have tried to come to terms with this intensely difficult family problem," Diana gushed in a letter dated July 26.

Extract of letter written by Diana Princess of Wales to The Duke of Edinburgh Prince Philip. Picture: AP
Extract of letter written by Diana Princess of Wales to The Duke of Edinburgh Prince Philip. Picture: AP

 

Extracts written show the affection felt between the two, although reportedly their relationship later soured. Picture: AP
Extracts written show the affection felt between the two, although reportedly their relationship later soured. Picture: AP

 

Philip's missives became bolder as the situation worsened. He expressed his concern about her bulimia and acknowledged it could have been responsible for some of her behavioural patterns.

He also acknowledged she was a good mother, but maybe she had been too possessive with her sons. Diana did not appreciate being told off and furiously showed the letters to her friends, including Rosa Monckton and Lucia Flecha de Lima, who helped her construct suitable replies.

He went on to suggest Diana's behaviour might have even driven Charles into Camilla Parker Bowles' arms.

He started one letter with the words: "Phew! I thought I might have gone a bit too far with that last letter."

Diana acknowledged that Prince Philip's letters were helpful in the beginning but as things became more difficult, his tone had changed.

The affection they once shared turned to mutual dislike and paranoia on Diana's part.

She revealed to designer Roberto Devorik her fears that Prince Philip was plotting to have her killed.

Devorik repeated this under oath, adding that she once pointed to a picture of Philip in an airport lounge and said: "He wants me to disappear."

Another friend, the US billionaire deal-maker Teddy Forstmann, said: "She hated Prince Philip."

Diana told me she had grown to dislike Philip when I saw her at Kensington Palace shortly before her death in 1997.

She explained she had warned William and Harry that his behaviour towards his staff was unacceptable and said to them: "Never shout at anyone the way Prince Philip does."

She thought he was a bully and, when the mood took her, she claimed he had almost certainly been unfaithful to the Queen.

Diana never revealed if she had evidence to support her claim, but it seemed to satisfy her that she was sowing the seed of doubt.

Things came to a head in June 1992 with the first serialisation of Andrew Morton's book Diana: Her True Story in The Sunday Times.

The Queen and Prince Philip called a meeting at Windsor Castle to confront the ­warring couple.

When Diana told them she had tried to be civil to her husband but her efforts had failed, Philip insisted they should remember their duty and find a compromise for the sake of their children and the monarchy.

They felt the meeting had made valuable headway and a second summit was arranged for the next day - but Diana failed to appear.

All Philip was ever doing was protecting the Queen. When he saw Diana's actions were damaging the institution, he refused to keep his feelings to himself.

Perhaps if these two strong characters had been able to sustain their early relationship, Diana would have acted on his advice.

But sadly, it was never to be.

Ingrid Seward is author of My Husband & I - The inside Story Of The Queen and Prince Philip's 70-year Marriage and Editor in Chief of Majesty magazine.

This story was originally published on The Sun and is reproduced here with permission

Originally published as Philip's special relationship with Diana



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