Love is all you need this Valentine's Day
IT'S a day for lovers to show they care, secret admirers to become a little less secret and if you're a stalker well it's really just another day for you.
But if you're single on Valentine's Day it somehow becomes the most important day of the year.
You can walk around a confident, happy person 364 days of the year but when Feb 14 rolls around an inexplicable anxiety creeps in.
Who will be my Valentine?
All of a sudden the fact that you are single, whether by choice or otherwise, becomes glaringly obvious to the rest of the population.
"I am going to be alone forever and ever and everyone at work is going to know it."
Because that's the real problem. It's not that you are alone; the problem is when the frazzled florists drops off the bouquets at work you're not going to get one.
I think Valentine's Day has become more about the show of it than the alleged significance behind the day.
For example, one of my former work colleagues last year was the only girl in the office who did not receive a bunch of blooms.
Despite having an absolutely wonderful boyfriend at home she was furious he had not sent her flowers. Of course she knew he loved her more than anything, but that's not the point is it?
Valentine's Day is really about showing everyone else how much you are loved; thank God it usually falls on a weekday when everyone is at work!
Which is, quite frankly, ridiculous.
I think for most Gen Ys it starts at high school, when the student council decides it will be a great fundraising idea to sell single flowers at an affordable $5 a pop for students to buy for each other.
Not getting one is the equivalent of being last picked for a game of soccer during HPE, only far, far worse.
Luckily for me I had an awesome group of friends at school and we all bought each other roses so nobody felt left out, but more importantly it was to show each other they were loved.
Even luckier still is, 10 years later, we still have the same arrangement. The only thing that has changed is we are pretty hard pressed to find a flower for $5.
So if you are "alone" this Valentine's Day don't despair that you were not invited out to a restaurant for a three-course set-menu, celebrate what the day is all about.
It doesn't matter if you're not in love - you are very loved!