Lifestyle

Why the future mother-in-law shouldn't ruin your big day

Dear Amy,

My BF and I are in absolute love and plan to get married next Easter, but the trouble is I don't want my future in-laws at our wedding.

The simple reason being my future mother-in-law dresses like someone with an overactive Kings Cross nightlife. If you get my drift?

She's the kind of woman who thinks stilettos and a hemline parallel with her undies is entirely acceptable daywear.

She wears more makeup than Michael Jackson ever did, is on her second round of cleavage enhancement and has tattoo work to rival a Maori warrior.

My boyf and are from different backgrounds but we make it work… what to do about the wedding day though?

I fear being upstaged by my MIL's costume whatever she chooses to wear or having the entire event ruined… (not to mention the photos).

Thanks,
Embarrassed daughter-in-law

 

Amy's Answer:

The best answer I can give you is right there in your very first sentence.

You're in love - that's what matters.

I can understand how it might be distracting but really, what bridesmaids dresses over the years haven't been embarrassing and had the potential to be remembered more than what the bride herself was wearing?

I've certainly worn some corkers of my own over the years.

At the end of the day it's your day and you can choose who you want to be a part of it.

But I think not inviting your fiance's mother is just a recipe for more drama and disaster far outweighing the possibility of a few pairs of eyes darting towards a scantily-clad woman in the pews of the church.

My advice is to put judgement aside and just invite her - she's your fiance's family and like the saying goes: you can choose your friends, not your relatives.

She's not hurting anyone by her choice of clothes so in time you'll just have to learn to accept it if you want to be married to the man you love.

And when it comes to photos a quiet word in the photographer's ear is all you need to do to put your mum-in-law in the background if needed.

Amy

Do you have a question for Amy? Email askamy@apn.com.au

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