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Secret to marriage ... "stay busy"

Dulcie and Mervyn Herrmann are celebrating 60 years on marriage. The couple married on 31 January 1953.
Dulcie and Mervyn Herrmann are celebrating 60 years on marriage. The couple married on 31 January 1953. Claudia Baxter
HAPPY MEMORIES: Dulcie and Mervyn Herrmann celebrate 60 years of marriage. They wed on January 31, 1953.
HAPPY MEMORIES: Dulcie and Mervyn Herrmann celebrate 60 years of marriage. They wed on January 31, 1953. Claudia Baxter

MERV and Dulcie Herrmann reckon one of the secrets to the success of their long marriage is they were always too busy to argue.

Mervyn and his mates started going to the Blenheim dances in 1951, and that's where he met Dulcie.

Mervyn recalled thinking, "She's a good looking girl".

She could dance very well especially doing the polka.

They could only see each other once a week because they had too much farm work to do but love blossomed and they were married on January 31, 1953.

They lived in Prenzlau where they had four children - Kevin, Gaylene, Gary and Janette.

They now have nine grandchildren and 17 great-grandchildren.

On the farm they milked cows, had a piggery, grew milo, corn, onion seed and lucerne.

They went through droughts, floods and hail storms and lost thousands of dollars but received no government assistance for their financial hardship, but still managed to survive.

The easygoing couple agree their hardworking lifestyle was one of the keys to their successful marriage.

Mrs Herrmann said: "He used to be down the farm and I was with the kids in the cow bails."

"We had no time to argue. We had our work to do, a farm to run," Mr Herrmann said.

We had no time to argue. We had our work to do, a farm to run... If you're patient, everything will work out.

"But in life, I suppose, you've got to give and take and you've got to try and do the right thing.

"If you're patient, everything will work out.

"A lot of people have an argument and the next thing they're gone.

"My opinion is this is where a lot of the young ones make a big mistake.

"They argue all day and all night.

"And the longer you argue, the worse it gets.

"We have a bit of a, you know, but it's over in two minutes. It's give and take."

Mervyn and Dulcie Herrmann on their wedding day, 31 January 1953. Photo: Claudia Baxter / The Queensland Times Photo: Contributed
Mervyn and Dulcie Herrmann on their wedding day, 31 January 1953. Photo: Claudia Baxter / The Queensland Times Photo: Contributed Contributed

In 1974 Mervyn was told he had a bad back so they sold the farm and moved to Ipswich.

After marriage, they moved to Mervyn's father's house at Woodend and stayed there for a year before building their own house at Brassall where they still live.

Mervyn got a job as a janitor at Ipswich Girls' Grammar School where he worked for 12 years before he retired at the age of 58.

Dulcie worked as a volunteer with St John Ambulance for 20 years, helping with fundraising and anything else they wanted her to do.

She was awarded a Member of the Order of St John in 2004.

Dulcie also volunteered with Meals on Wheels and Senior Citizens and crocheted blankets for the Red Cross for nursing homes and Ipswich Hospice.

Over the years they ventured on many holidays to America, Hawaii and to New Zealand and made numerous trips around Australia.

But their most significant trip was to South Australia to visit Dulcie's brother Herbie, who she had not seen for 56 years.

They also enjoy pottering around in the garden planting vegetable and flowers.

At times they would have so many vegetables they would give them away to grateful neighbours.

They still go on a bus trip once a month.

Topics:  marriage, wedding anniversary




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